Hiro, Could you please say some more about needs? You said “And you can ask for what you need from them, without being attached to whether or not you’ll get those needs met by them.”

The whole concept of “needs” is difficult for me. What things are genuinely needs, anyway? I mean, I may want something, but there I very few things I genuinely NEED. And if it’s a serious NEED, how can I be detached from whether or not it gets met? What if I need things that are outside of my control? Of course this person doesn’t have to fulfill my need, but maybe no one will. Is it still a need?

Maybe I’m just hung up on needs vs. wants. Is there a critical difference? Could you substitute the word “want” for “need” with the same results? To me, “I need . . .” almost always sounds like a want dressed up to sound more urgent or important.

Confused,