On Desire and the creative kindness of limits

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There’s an epidemic of exhaustion, overwhelm, and not-enoughness among our tribe of online entrepreneurs. We care, deeply, about the state of our world. And we forget that giving and receiving are in-breath and out-breath. Too much of one without the other will leave you passed out on the floor, unable to help yourself or anyone else because you’ve forgotten to breathe.

We deplete ourselves in order to serve our clients and customers. We don’t mean to do this. We recognize the need for harmony and wholeness, for loving care. But our needs can seem infinite, untenable, impossible to meet “in the real world.”

So, we serve our vision of an abundant world through a kind of spiritual and energetic anorexia. We don’t give ourselves what we truly need, in order to serve deeply and joyously. And since we can only give what’s within us, we offer emptiness from our emptied-out selves. We feel hollow, disconnected from the sources of our power and presence. Uprooted from the ground of our being, our doing becomes desiccated, dusty, ineffective.

We feel chronically guilty about not giving our businesses what we think they need in order to flourish. We forget that, to nourish our businesses, we must first nourish ourselves.

This is for all of you who sometimes feel as though you’re hiking through a desert of musts and shoulds and ought-tos and never-enoughs.

First: Take a breath… And another… and… another…

What is your deepest desire, right now? Quick, without thought or reflection — what do you know you truly and deeply want?

Trust your deep desire. Honor its call. If your desire is for peace, for spaciousness, give yourself breathing room. Give yourself whatever you need, to feel peaceful, to feel spacious. Rest. Do the bare minimum and explore what ease and grace can do for you.

Discover what really needs your time and attention. Partner with the soul of your business to make it happen with just the amount of effort necessary to bring it to full and flourishing life.

I promise you, your long to-do list is not part of your soul’s purpose.

First and foremost, you offer the world your presence, the quality of your incarnate being. Cultivating this is your primary responsibility.

What would your life be like, if you shaped your business with your own well-being — your joy, your relaxed, rested, deep presence — at its heart? How would you serve? How would you serve if you served yourself first, and let the fullness of your presence overflow in service to your world?

This is what I’ve been exploring, experimenting with and playing with in my own business.

Start with the assumption that your deepest desires are holy, evolutionary, and blessed.

What happens when you follow them — beyond what you think you should be doing, into the truth of a life and business that is truly yours, that rests on the ground of your presence?

Be curious.

When those fears inevitably arise — that you are letting opportunities slip through your fingers because you’re too tired, or you’ve depleted your time, your energy and your finances on things that don’t nourish you; that you’ll never be able to have what you need because you’re caught in a desert of not-enoughness — remind yourself of this truth:

There is no such thing as a lost opportunity. That which belongs with you will return to you in many forms, until you are ready to receive it. Wholeness gives you everything you need, in each moment.

Meet your immediate needs first — and trust that when you’re ready, what you need next will offer itself.

We live in a universe of infinite potentiality. Incarnation is the art of choosing — from those infinite possibilities — the one or two things that you are willing and able to lend your creative power to at any given time. When you choose that which is in harmony with your deepest desires, your choices will nourish you, your life, your business and your world.

This is the art of creating and manifesting within boundaries. Boundaries are not walls — they are living containers within which your desires can breathe, gestate and grow until they are ready to be born.

Choose what your heart truly desires, right now. When you’ve had your fill, your desire will lead you to the next creative choice, and the next.

Choose truth. Choose compassion for yourself. Choose loving kindness.

Discover how your life and business unfold, when you place your own well-being on the altar of your world.


Summon your stories

Summon your own stories


Rhythm, timing & effective creation

Let Wholeness bring it home


Storytelling: The power of love in action

Storytelling is the power of Love in action


On energy alchemy and transformation

For some kinds of transformational/energy work, it’s helpful to be separate from the space in which you’re working, and from the elements and processes with which you are engaged. The work will be more effective if you establish a focus for your own consciousness that is separate from the vibrational field of the work you’re doing. This is especially true when you’re addressing long-standing issues, or patterns that have deep roots and a high emotional charge.

You can’t transform a sticky or tangled pattern by vibrating at the same frequency as the pattern. You have to bring a clearer, stronger vibration / pattern into relationship with the tangled pattern, in order to change it. You do this by accessing a more coherent, organized and integrated field of consciousness or attention.

Once you’re comfortable locating your attention in a space separate from the energies with which you are working, you can move freely along the entire spectrum of your being and find the most effective place from which to work with any individual issue.

For other situations or issues, it’s most useful to enter the space in which the pattern exists, and work from within it. This is largely a kinesthetic process. It achieves the same ends through different means.

Each of you will have primary modes of working that are most comfortable for you — visual, kinesthetic, auditory, whole-presence, and so on. It’s useful to develop skill and facility with each of these modes of working, so that you can bring the whole of yourself — all your gifts and genius — to the creative process of shaping your life, your business and your world.


On Teaching and Sovereignty

When you’re teaching, or facilitating a group, if you resonate to the frequency of the group, you will do them and yourself a great disservice.

To create a safe and effective container for transformation, you gather, hold, and collaborate with a wide variety of energies: the Deva of your group or program, its allies, your allies, your program participants’ souls, their allies, and so on. You can only do this when you are sovereign, and in right relationship with each of the elements in your program’s ecology.

The folks working with your materials will go through their “stuff” during the program — it’s what transformational programs are designed to do. If you compromise your sovereignty, you’ll be in their stuff with them, rather than available to hold a clearer, stronger vibration within which they can safely navigate their stuff without becoming it.

At a soul level, you are indeed their soul’s friend. On a 3-D, physical world level, you have a different task — one that requires sovereignty, clarity, power, strength, wisdom and real, unsentimental love.

Each time you teach, you grow your capacity to embody and express the qualities that make you a great teacher. Teaching is learning, a path to wholeness.


Be clear about whom you serve, and your tribe will find you.

As entrepreneurs with transformational businesses, we have to be clear about whom we serve, and how we serve them. It isn’t your responsibility to convince anyone of the reality of soul, spirit, subtle energies, and so on.

People are sovereign beings, with the right to make sovereign choices about their beliefs, among other things. Your job is to communicate as clearly and lucidly as possible that which you are here to share or to teach.

Your work will land with those who are ready to hear it, even if they don’t get it all at first. When you try to “convince” them of the truth of what you’re teaching, you move out of your own center and (sometimes) into theirs, leaving your own kingdom empty and depleting your power and presence. It’s disrespectful of your own sovereignty and of theirs.

It can feel like a fine distinction between clear communication and the need to convince, but it’s really another aspect of right relationship — with yourself, and with your tribe.


Habits & Creative Play

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We are adventurers at heart. Our souls love to splash around in newness, to explore and discover the wondrous worlds that lie beyond the safe shores of home.

Yes, we have fundamental needs for security, home, belonging. Without the foundation of safety and protection that these give us, we never feel fully free. But our needs for discovery, play, and creative exploration are just as essential, if we are to live joyfully and flourish.

You can meet these needs most easily when you create containers – sandboxes, art studios, writing corners, red-clay riverbanks – that hold and nurture your creative energy.

Habits have an undeserved reputation as unconscious, rigid patterns that stifle creative flow. But, consciously cultivated, habits can be the protective riverbanks that guide the effortless flow of your creative energy.

By cultivating habits that support your creative process, you align your power with your soul’s deep desire for exploration, discovery, and ongoing evolution.

Consciously cultivated habits are the engine of momentum. With the right habits to support you, you won’t have to make a new choice each day to overcome inertia and play freely, creatively. You’ll add color, richness, texture and depth to your life. And you’ll have great fun doing it.

My own creative habits are eclectic, chosen as much for their capacity to delight as for their ability to hold my creative process. And, they change and evolve. Crafting them is fun, a lighthearted response to the call of my soul, which dances gleefully over shifting terrain.

Variety keeps the structures of habit fresh and interesting.

Mostly, my creative practices arise spontaneously from a life-long spirit of curiosity, play, adventure and exploration, anchored in a container of time and space, energy, presence and attention.

Some of these practices are as constant as breath – I’ve practiced them all my life; they are the mainstay of my world. Others are inspired by an image, a feeling, a word or phrase that brushes fleetingly against the skin of my attention. Or by a deep communion with Nature that leaves its fingerprint on my heart.

These creative explorations are internal, but they are rooted in my relationship with the world around me. They have their own rules of engagement: They command my presence, my love and willingness to explore with an open heart, to learn what they have to show me.

Most of all, they call me to be changed by my encounter with Otherness – to discover who I become, as a result of my relationship with the people, places and energies I meet along the way, and to embrace whatever emerges from our play together.

The container of habit itself is simple enough.

Mornings are my most creative time, so I keep them free for adventuring. Sometimes, I stay in my pajamas – a signal to my whole being to remain as softly receptive as when I first wake from sleep. Others, I shower, dress, light a stick of incense and a candle, and attune to the Deva of Love, or the spirit of Blessing, or whatever soul quality I want to embody, explore and play with that day.

Some mornings, I stretch out in my favorite chair, drift into the vista across the bay to the blue mountains at the horizon’s rim, sip a cup of herbal tea, and day-dream.

Day-dreaming is a vastly underrated activity. Most of us are really good at it, as kids, until it’s shamed out of us, or we succumb to the metronome of busyness that doles out time like assembly-line aspirin.

Me, I choose to play in ways that slow me back to heart time, pulse time. I read poems whose rhythms are heartbeats. I write longhand in an unlined 5 x 7 spiral-bound sketchbook. The thick-textured paper, the open white-space of the page, feels expansive, generous – as spacious as free play.

It’s a bowl of habits designed to invoke and hold the rich broth of feelings in which my creative energy feels most at home.

What happens next depends partly on serendipity, and partly on the particular practice I’ve crafted to explore something I’m curious about.

For the past several months, for example, my daily practice has been to let myself have all of what I truly want. To notice when I hedge, hold back, make-do, or otherwise shrink from my desire. And to observe who I become and what I create when I say a full and wholehearted Yes to everything my heart desires.

The results have been both interesting and delightful. My days hold more spaciousness, more fun and play, more connection with my world, more travel, more engagement. More of what I want now — very little of anything that doesn’t feel right for me in this moment.

More trust in my creative capacity. Trust in the gifts of Grace, in Divine Timing. A rich flow of abundance to support it all.

This experiment has also yielded a deep vein of wisdom in daily writing, a new collection of poems, and two other projects that will serve you and my world in ways that make my heart very happy.

If this sounds good to you, take a daily swim in the river of your own radiant, powerfully creative life. Shape habits that suit you, ones that work well with your own natural rhythms and temperament.

The habit of creativity serves you and your world – it helps you craft a life and business you love, and contributes to a world that supports the perfect unfolding of all forms of life.

What habits and practices do you already have in place, that nourish your creativity, day to day? Celebrate these. Refine them. Bring them up to date.

If you’re feeling creatively stagnant, begin by shaping a container in which your creative energy loves to play. Set up a space and time that’s just for you — one where your allegiance is to your creative self alone; where you can play undisturbed. Buy or borrow tools that feel perfectly balanced in your hand, and keep them close. Use them with love and delight.

Breathe.

Ask yourself – where does your energy and attention naturally want to flow? What awaits you, just beyond the harbor of routine and familiar thoughts, feelings, ideas, grooves of attention?

What structures and habits can you create, to hold this play time, this exploration of freedom?

Get support, to get started. Check out resources close to home – friends to play with, classes or workshops in your community. Dance, sing, draw, paint. Make music. Write or sculpt or cook. Make love. Make waves. Make your art.

Trust your heart’s deepest, most compelling desires – especially the ones that seem whimsical or frivolous, frothy beyond all reason. See where they lead you. Discover who you become, when you say Yes to them.

You are an incarnate soul. Creativity is in your DNA. Nurture it, and you nurture Wholeness.

Your creative exploration is part of the Divine Play of the universe itself.

And, you’ll have the time of your life!

Here we go…!


If you want to explore, grow, play, and shape the world of your business using the powerfully creative tools of energy alchemy, please join me for the Fall, 2014 session of Become Your Own Business Adviser. This session of the 12-week program begins On September 15th.

Word. To take advantage of the best early registration discount, register by September 8th.

To learn more about the program, join me for a free preview teleclass, Create With Power, on September 3rd at 10 am Pacific Time. If you can’t make it to the live call, you can download and listen to the call recording in your own timing.

Details and registration here.


What Really Supports You?

Last Friday, I had the great privilege of leading a circle of 45 radiantly creative women on a journey into the Heart of Support. This morning, I’d like to share with you an excerpt from our Deep Dive exploration into Support.

The dictionary definitions of support include: to bear – primarily from below; to hold or uphold; to strengthen; to provide for.

Support and provision are qualities of soul. Along with other essence qualities like power, love, truth and abundance, they emerge from the field of unity, of formlessness, and are at the heart of all forms of life.

At the unity and essence end of the continuum of being, you are one with all that is. There is no difference between you and the business that supports you. You are not separate from the Deva of Support, the subtle energy being who holds the blueprint for the soul quality of support in all dimensions.

To experience support as a soul quality, all you have to do is become present, and attune to this quality, which is already within you, even if it is primarily a seed or potential and you have yet to develop your capacity to gather and hold it.

But you dont live solely at the unity and essence level of your being. You are also an incarnate soul, and you have a very specific incarnate presence. No-one else in the world is exactly like you – you are uniquely and utterly yourself in the particularity of your being. No-one else has your particular genetic makeup, your personality, your way of experiencing the world.

No-one else has your particular ecology either. Your relationship with the world around you is not the same as that of your sister or mother, your dearest friend or your beloved Yorkie.

At this particular end of the continuum of being, you are unlike anyone else who has ever lived or ever will live. You are a miracle. One of a kind.

Support and the World of Your Business

At this particular end of the continuum of being, your business, too, has its own incarnate life and presence, different from yours. It is as uniquely itself as you are.

Similarly, Support itself begins with unity and essence, and then manifests in particular patterns and forms that require boundaries, containers, definition and differentiation for it to express itself in your life and the life of your business.

Support appears in your business as support for the particular, highly specific life of your business. It shows up as allies and creative partners who support you with connections, money, expertise, advice, technologies and other concrete forms of support.

There are many ways to look at support in your business. One way of mapping your businesss needs for support is to consider the kind of support you need in each of the following four areas of your business:

1. Support for inspiration, guidance and visioning the world of your business.

2. Support for strategic planning, to lay down a pattern for that vision to unfold.

3. Support for goal-setting, project planning, and organizing systems and structures that will hold up the body of your business.

4. Support for implementation – the day-to-day operations and actions that move you towards your goals.

Each of these forms of support is an expression of the essence of Support — which emerges from Source, from the Sacred, and whose pattern is held by the Deva of Support. But the forms that support takes are forms that are in harmony with the life and incarnation of your business, and meet the very specific needs of your business as they exist right now.

At this particular end of the spectrum of being, differentiation, discernment and boundaries are essential, to be in right relationship with support.

When you know yourself and your true desires – when you know what youre feeling and what you need both for yourself, and for your business — then you can exercise your discernment and your power to choose the forms of support that are right for you. You know what kind of support to ask for, which offers of support to say Yes to and which ones to say No to.

You know which areas of your business need support and in what sequence. You can then mobilize your allies, and focus your resources of time, energy and money on those forms of support that will truly be beneficial to you and your business.

This will keep you from wasting your time and money on things that seem like a good idea, but dont really support your purposes or arent in right timing for your business. If your business is still in its infancy, it needs the kind of support that will bring in cash flow rather than support from elaborate organizational systems or software designed for much bigger businesses.

Anything that you or your business cannot actually use and digest – no matter how fabulous it might be – becomes toxic and a source of stress and difficulty, rather than a source of support.

For example, if you have a fledgling business manufacturing jewelry or clothing, and a colleague decides to support you by sending you a massive order for a hundred thousand nose rings, or a million hand-appliqued platypus t-shirts, that order will not support your business – it is more likely to destroy your business, as you struggle to cope with an order that is completely beyond your capacity to fulfill.

True support is always aligned with your souls purposes, and in harmony with your life and the life of your business.

So to access the right support, get to know yourself and your business; know what you truly need and can actually use. Then, you can stand in your sovereignty and say Yes to the forms of support that are in harmony with your purposes, and No to those that arent.

 

The early registration discount for Become Your Own Business Adviser ends tomorrow.

To lay a powerful foundation for support in all aspects of your business, please join me and an intimate group of creative women entrepreneurs for this highly transformative 12-week program, in which you’ll develop advanced energy alchemy skills to manifest the world of your business.

It will change your life.

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Desire, Risk and Creative Buoyancy: an Interview with Danielle LaPorte

 

This morning, I woke to monsoon skies and the first hint of Fall in the air. The creative ferment of September is calling.

And, this morning I had a wonderfully stimulating, enlightening, laughter-filled conversation with my dear friend, Danielle LaPorte.

We talked about desire, heeding the call of that which is scratching at you, wanting to be born. The risk of following your truth wherever it leads. And the divine flow that links creative freedom, metrics and true success.

Bestselling author. Inspiring truth-seeker. Playful mama. Creative powerhouse.

Danielle is all these things, and more.

Listen in as we riff on the roots of creativity, saying yes, and inspired action. Plus, Danielle makes a surprise announcement!

Hiro Boga in conversation with Danielle La Porte

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For those of you who prefer to read, here’s a downloadable transcript of our conversation: Hiro & Danielle conversation – transcript.

Many thanks to Rachel Rofe for providing the transcription.

 

Become Your Own Business Adviser: A 12-week journey into the creative heart of your business.

From September 24th to December 10th, I’ll teach the sixth session of the magical program that is Become Your Own Business Adviser.

Unlike any business development program you’ve ever experienced, BYOBA is a creative container in which you and your business will flourish by applying advanced energy alchemy technologies to the unfolding miracle of your business.

You grow your business by growing yourself. The skills you learn in BYOBA will transform both you and your business — and will continue to serve you for the rest of your life.

Over 100 women have taken this program over the past three years. They have used it to create everything from brand-new businesses to highly profitable programs and products that deeply serve their right people.

Using the magic of energy alchemy to align their own creative power with the powers of the Universe, they have written successful book proposals, launched record labels and CDs, opened Playgrounds for grownups, tripled their income, discovered new passions and directions for their work, and found home and belonging within their own hearts.

Many of them continue to experience everyday miracles in their lives and businesses.

Here’s a small sampling of what past students say about the program. You can read more reviews here.

“Hiro’s gentle guidance and hot-like-lightning tools in the Become Your Own Business Adviser program opened doors, dissolved obstacles, and poured new people, opportunities, and dollar bills into my world… with EASE.”

- Michele Christensen, Executive Coach, WorkingWithPower.com

“Working with Hiro, her divine wisdom and inspired business processes, is the most profound, business-shifting work I’ve done to date.”

-Nathalie Lussier, Website Design, Media and Marketing Specialist. nathalielussier.com

“Expanded vision, empowered healing, growth made easy — these are just a few of the gifts I received from participating in Become Your Own Business Adviser.

If you want a Rocket Boost to accelerate your growth, your business, your vision, your life – play with Hiro. She’s a mistress of alchemy and a divine Diva of Play!”

-Kathryn Elliott, PhD. Editor in Chief, partnerpotentialandplay.com

When: Mondays, September 24th to December 10th.

Where: At home. Or at the beach. Or wherever your mp3 player and ebook reader will take you. All 12 classes are delivered as digital mp3 and pdf downloads.

Plus:

  • A private, members-only forum for community, support, and celebration.
  • Four LIVE integration calls.
  • Bonus LIVE teleclasses with guest teachers.
  • Lifetime access to the program.

Tuition: $620 before August 15. Two-pay option available.

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  • You are a sovereign being,
    a fractal of the Sacred,
    a fractal of Wholeness.
  • The flow of your life.
    The soul of your business.
  • Grow your business.
    Grow yourself.
  • Expand your life. Evolve your business.
  • The art of alignment. The miracle of action.
  • Trust in the power of your perfect unfolding.
  • Permission to grow, to flow, to know.
  • You learn about freedom by experiencing what it feels like to be bound.
  • Beyond your beliefs, beyond your drama — the truth of your life.
  • Success is becoming the person who can ask for hugs and holding when your own strength has deserted you.
  • Embrace the mystery at the heart of creation.
  • Your soul sends out tendrils of light and fragrance into the world.
  • You are the gift — and the giver.
    You are the Love, and the lover.
  • At the heart of all things — even limiting beliefs and painful programming — is wholeness.
  • Surrender is an act of will. It is aligning your will with the will of the Sacred.
  • You learn about sovereignty through the experience of being dethroned.
  • Love transforms.
  • Your soul's purpose is to participate in wholeness, to express wholeness.
  • True Desire is a messenger of your soul.
    It leads directly to your soul’s purposes.
  • Unfold the miracle of your life and business.
  • Business = Love in action.
  • Everything you need is already within you, waiting to unfold and express itself.
  • Your inner world shapes your outer world.
    Success is an inside job.
  • You are the story, and the story-maker.
    Your life is yours to shape.