The Care & Feeding of Boundaries

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This morning, I’m honoring a profound desire to tend to my boundaries, which have become somewhat diffuse and hazy this week.

Boundaries are not walls, but rather, those forms that create and hold the evolving shape of your life. When I tuned into mine this morning, they felt studded with — and in places, shredded by — bits and pieces of the world’s stuff, embedded into my energy field like shrapnel.

As incarnate beings, we are both boundaried and boundless. We inhabit an ecology of being that includes everything from the unconditioned realms of unity and essence — in which we are one with all that is — to the pattern and form of our lives, which unfold in the conditioned realms of the 3-D world, as well as the subtle energy realms in-between.

Incarnation is a boundaried state in which the boundless soul enters into a conditioned field, and takes on a particular shape and form — a pattern that makes each of us uniquely ourselves, a very specific and individual expression of the Sacred.

Without boundaries, we would remain in the realms of formlessness. We choose to incarnate in the physical world because we love this earth, because we love the human family. Being here as incarnate beings offers us a richly creative environment in which to grow, serve the earth, serve humanity, experience and express our soul’s qualities within the form and pattern of our lives, and act as generative, co-creative partners to shape a world of love and blessing.

On a practical, everyday level, it’s pretty simple. Boundaries help me be more fully myself. When I am myself, I’m able to share myself — the gifts of soul, the gift of my personhood — with my world. I can be loving, kind, funny, playful, generous. My presence blesses me and my world.

When I lose myself — either by merging with someone or something else, or losing my sovereignty in some other way, by allowing that which is not-me to become stronger in my energetic space than my own soul — I become a blobby mess, unable to connect with my soul, and unavailable for true communion with anyone else.

For me, there’s a rhythm of engagement and solitude that helps me stay whole and present. Too much engagement and I fray around the edges. Too much solitude and I lose connection with my heart. So it’s a dance rather than a fixed state of being.

For the past 40+ years, I’ve had a daily practice of cleansing and restoring my body, energy body, and energy field. And, during that time, the world around me has changed, as have I.

As I age, what I need to sustain the vibrancy and health of my body and energy body changes as well. As the world around us changes, those personal practices of cleansing, nourishment and restoration that were effective and powerful in the past, become less so.

So, with my soul’s guidance, and in partnership with my Business Deva, the Devas of the Earth and Cosmos, the Devas of the Elements, the Devas of soul qualities, and my own embodied creativity and discernment, I devise new ways of harmonizing the elements of my energy body that are more skillful and responsive to the times in which we live.

Today, I’m filling the boundary of my energy field with flexibility and strength; release; receptivity and discernment; love and power; radiance and completion. Each of these qualities helps differentiate my incarnate being from the world around me. And, through that differentiation, I become more available for true relationship with my world today.

How about you? What is your relationship with your own boundaries today? How do you honor and care for them? How do challenges with your boundaries affect your life and business?


Uncertainty: An Energy Alchemy Approach

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Yesterday I had an appointment with an orthopaedic surgeon, who put me on a waitlist for hip replacement surgery. Here in Canada we’re blessed to have universal health-care, which means that the cost of my surgery will be covered by the modest health care insurance premiums I pay each month. The flip side of this is that surgical waitlists for joint replacements are up to a year long, and there’s no way to predict when the surgery will take place.

When I returned home from the appointment, I called a meeting with my soul, my inner selves, and my Business Deva, to explore how best to integrate surgery and recovery into the world of my business, when the timing of these events is unknown.

Holding the surgery/recovery in relationship to the ecology of my business, I invited both my soul and my Business Deva to harmonize these future elements with the pattern each of them holds for the perfect unfolding of my life, and the life of my business.

I watched timelines dissolve, only to emerge in different shapes and forms in my business’s ecology. The pattern of my life and business is being reconfigured to include the surgery. Allies appeared, from many dimensions, to lend their power and support to this reconfiguration. I went to bed with a peaceful heart, feeling in every cell of my body, the great movement of Divine Timing.

Over the next few days, I’ll do the things I can do now, to prepare for the surgery and its aftermath. Hire support. Talk with my family about what to expect, and what I might need from them. Arrange to buy or rent the equipment I’ll need after the surgery. But mostly, I’ll continue to harmonize the surgery and healing with the pattern that my soul and the Deva of my business hold, for the perfect unfolding of my life and my business.

When you’re facing uncertainty in your life — whether it’s due to illness, a relationship gone awry, death of a beloved, financial constriction, or any one of a myriad possibilities that have the potential to derail you — energy alchemy helps you align with the powers and potentials that love and support your incarnation and the world of your business.

It’s simple. It’s practical. It’s a profoundly relational way to take care of business.

How do you handle uncertainty in your life, and its potential impact on your business?


If you want to learn how to use powerful energy alchemy skills and practices to shape the world of your business in alignment with its soul, and with your own deepest values, please join me for the fall session of Become Your Own Business Adviser. Read reviews and praise from alumni who have benefited from this powerfully transformative 12-week program, which begins on September 28. Registration is open now. Early registration discount is available until August 28.


Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business

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There is a deep desire for freedom, spaciousness, abundance and ease, among our community of creative entrepreneurs. We long to contribute our creativity, skills and heart to the task of building a world that works for everyone. We believe in business as a soul path. We also want to flourish, to build a foundation of wealth and prosperity for ourselves, our beloveds, our communities and our planet.

And yet, when we pursue success on terms that are not our own, we suffer. Ease and joy are lost in the daily grind of too much and not enough. Too many things clamoring for our time and attention. Too many responsibilities, demands, needs to be met. Not enough time, support, spaciousness, breathing room.

At every stage of business, we are offered these gifts and challenges: To meet our own needs and those of our businesses, with a full heart. To honor our true desires even when they seem to contradict each other. And to stay creative, playful, engaged and flexible while taking inspired action to fulfill our vision of what we and our businesses can be.

To explore what sustainable success looks and feels like, for you, please join me for a 7-day complimentary e-course, Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business, starting August 17th. You can register for it here.

The true basis for abiding success, in life and in business, is presence and connection. When you are deeply connected with your soul, you know what’s right for you, and you act to fulfill your deepest desires. When you are deeply connected with the soul of your business, you have a clear vision of its life and purpose, and a powerful ally in bringing that vision down to earth.

Your definition of success is as individual as you are — and it will change over time, as your true desires, and those of your business, continue to evolve.

Your business has its own soul, its own essence and purpose, its own allies, life path and reason for being. In this 7-day e-course, you’ll meet the soul of your business, and learn how to partner with it to co-create the kind of success that nurtures your soul, builds a foundation of wealth, prosperity and provision for you and your beloveds, and makes a lasting and positive contribution to the soul of the world.

Sustainable success is anchored in inner attunement with your own desires and those of your business, followed by clear and purposeful action.

By the end of our seven-day exploration, you will have a direct experience of the depth and power of your own soul, and the soul of your business. You’ll get a taste of the energy alchemy skills and practices that are the cornerstone of my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins September 28. It is a business-building, life-transforming program unlike any other.

Sign up for Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business. You’ll be very glad you did.


Power: Love in Action

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Power is one of the qualities of your soul. You were born with the quality of power pulsing through every cell of your body. It is what enabled you to make the journey from formlessness into form, from essence into incarnation. Without power, you would not exist.

So power is within you, always, just as it is within all forms of creation. Open your eyes and look out your window. That tree, with its tender new leaves, the squirrel scurrying through the grass, that wide blue sky, those scudding clouds – they all exude power, because each is an expression of spirit in the material world. And spirit can only become matter through the activity of power.

Power remains vibrantly alive in the natural world, where it is renewed through organic cycles and seasonal processes. It’s the reason why walking in the woods, climbing a mountain, swimming in the ocean, working in your garden, lying on a beach and looking up at the stars in the night sky can leave you feeling replenished, deeply rested, as powerful as a planet.
When you consciously connect with it, the natural world lends you its power, and helps you restore your own.

And yet, in the daily noise of life and work, of growing and caring for your business, your family, your body, your home, it’s easy to become disconnected from your soul, and with it, from the source of your power. When your website is hacked, or your child is ill, or that project you’ve poured your heart into doesn’t pan out, you can feel defeated, powerless, at the mercy of forces beyond your control.

There’s the rub. We mistake control for power, and become discouraged when we encounter what we cannot control. The truth is, life has its own rhythm and timing, its own inner logic and flow. We have very little control over what happens around us. But, we do have power.

Your personal power is composed of a number of qualities, including sovereignty, self-esteem, self-knowledge, self-appreciation, grounding, and the ability to be centered, present and focused. It includes strong, flexible, permeable boundaries, understanding, and insight.

There are many different aspects to personal power. All of them hinge on your power to choose.

You choose the lens through which you focus. You can choose to see the circumstances of your life as opportunities for growth and creation or you can choose to see them as wounds and disabilities.

Or you can simply choose to see them as they are. You can choose to see the continuum through which your soul carries you through experiences of wounding and disability into growth and creation.

How you see yourself and the world around you will determine what your experiences of that world will be.

Seeing, in other words, is in some way about belief.

If you believe that your relationship to the world is an antagonistic one, that the world is a scary place and you have to protect yourself from it, then you will diminish and deplete your power. Your power will move out to the boundary of your space to try and defend it, leaving the interior of your space – your inner self – vacant rather than filled with your presence.

When you are absent rather than present, you are vulnerable to energies entering your space that don’t honor or respect your sovereignty.

The energy alchemy work we do in Become Your Own Business Adviser is powerful because it brings you back into right relationship with every aspect of your own ecology, and that of your business. Power flows from the integrity and harmony of your being, and the coherency and integrity of the world of your business.

When you transform the beliefs and patterns that keep you from seeing things as they are, you clear the distorting lenses that shape your experience of reality. You see people and situations in their wholeness – their contradictions, vulnerability and fragmentation, as well as their beauty, strength, and delight – rather than through the scrim of your fears, beliefs, programming and stories.

Once you see things as they are, you can choose to create more of the same, or you can choose to create something entirely different. Or you might choose to create something that builds on the past to shape a more vibrant future.

You have the power to choose what you’re going to create, purposefully, intentionally.

You can choose your values. You can choose how you think, how you act, what you put your energy into, who you hang out with. Choose what you say Yes to, and what you say No to.

When your choices are in alignment with your vision, your values, and your soul’s purpose, they have the power of an arrow flying directly at its mark. The more you bring your choices into alignment with your values and your soul, the more power you will have.

You can choose to act in ways that support your values or that diminish them. You can act to enhance and contribute to the whole, or you can act in ways that benefit yourself at the expense of the whole – in which case, you will diminish yourself because whatever happens to the whole happens to you too.

You can act in alignment with Source or you can act against it.

When you own your power to see, to choose, and to act, you stand in your power, you stand in your sovereignty. Then, things start to manifest very quickly. The gap between your intention, action and result becomes almost invisible.

When you don’t own your power, when you are stuck in narratives about victimization or obsess over your wounds or don’t follow through on your values and your commitments, you become much less effective.

Right relationship with power is essential for successfully creating anything – in your business and in your life.

We are powerful, when we choose to be.

Nelson Mandela used the long years of his imprisonment to develop inner power and freedom. So did Viktor Frankl, in Nazi death camps. They did this by choosing their state of consciousness – they chose clarity, peace, truth, freedom. They chose to meet the fist of brutality with the immense power of the human spirit.

Power is the active form of Love. Control is powerlessness masquerading as power.

If we are so powerful, why do we forget that we are incarnate souls? Why do we forget that we have the power of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth itself, in our bellies and lungs, in our bones and hearts?

We live in a culture that surrounds us with reminders of our powerlessness. It bombards us with messages about what we don’t have, what we must have in order to be happy, successful, fulfilled. We live in an environment teeming with not-enoughness. It pulls us out of our bodies, out of ourselves, and leaves us stranded on the far shore of striving to be smarter, richer, thinner, cleaner, more evolved, more innovative, more something.

When we believe we are not enough, we separate from ourselves. We disconnect from our bodies, our feelings, our sacredness, our souls — from the very sources of our power and nourishment. And, because our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all of our relationships, we disconnect from the earth, the natural world, and the sacred life all around us.

It’s no wonder, then, that we lose touch with the power we embodied so naturally and effortlessly when we were first born, when we were very young children.

I don’t want to sentimentalize childhood. The limitless qualities of our souls – love, freedom, abundance, power — are vibrantly present in us when we are very young, but we have yet to develop the capacity to use these qualities effectively and skillfully. We have yet to learn how these infinite forces function, in a world that is defined by boundaries and limits. It’s what childhood is for – to learn, to grow, to experiment in the playground of incarnation.

My granddaughter, who turned three last summer, has been playing with power and the limits of power more consciously, in the past few months. She’s figuring out how power works. Her mum asks her if she wants a snack, and she roars NO! at the top of her lungs – just because she can. Then she laughs uproariously, filled with gleeful delight at her own capacity to choose, and climbs up onto the kitchen chair to devour her milk and carrot sticks.

Her relationship with power remains an exploratory one – free of guilt, shame, blame, and the rest of the gremlins that beset us as we grow up and take on the shapes imposed upon us by our world.

Our families, schools and other social and educational institutions make sure we understand and obey the agreed-upon norms of our society. It’s an uneasy — and I hope, temporary — but necessary accommodation. We can’t go around yelling NO! to things we actually want, because if we do, they will no longer be available to us.

We can’t even yell NO! to things we don’t want, because we live in a world of relationships, and relationships require empathy, kindness, courtesy, and yes, tact, give-and-take, the willingness to be flexible and open to other points of view.

So, in training to be social beings, we learn both the helpful and the not-so-helpful accommodations of civil society. We learn to listen and be receptive to others, but we also learn to dissemble, to tell polite white lies, to hide our true feelings and pretend to like things we don’t. We hold ourselves back from voicing our true desires. We turn away from that which we truly long for.

Eventually, when we’ve done this for long enough, we grow distant from our desires until we no longer know what we feel, what we want, or how to find our way back home to who we really are. We numb out. We fill the void left by our unfulfilled desires with things, people, and experiences that are poor substitutes for our own soul’s essence. We give over, give away or throw away our power until we no longer have access to it.

The resulting feelings of powerlessness take us even further away from our wholeness, from the essential wholeness and power of the world.

And so the cycle is perpetuated. It’s that disconnection from power that gives rise to mechanisms of control, abuse of authority, and social, economic, and religious structures that serve a small minority at the expense of everyone else.

We experience abuses of power – in our homes and families, classrooms, financial institutions, social and economic systems. We experience the ways in which power is unequally distributed and misused in our workplaces, in our systems of governance and justice.

We react to this growing body of experience and understanding in a variety of ways. Some of us shrink away from the responsibility of owning and wielding power because we are afraid of the corrupting influence of power. Or we become mired in anger, blame, impotence or beliefs about power and powerlessness that keep us from accessing the depths of our own personal power, and using it in service to wholeness through focused, inspired, collaborative action.

Eventually, we forget that power is a quality of soul, that it is within us and cannot be taken away from us, no matter what. We identify ourselves and others as victims, we carve up our world into ideological categories – oppressors, victims, oppressed. And we contribute to the distortions that come from conflating the uses and abuses of power with its essence, which is the activity of love.

Power is Love in action. On a soul level, you have access to all the powers of wholeness — in this world and in the subtle energy worlds. When I say that the powers of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth and sun, are in you, I mean this quite literally. You can access these powers in your own energy body, once you develop the consciousness, skill and capacity to do so.

Much of the work we do in my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, is this work of accessing and developing your power and other soul qualities, embodying and expressing them in your business and in your daily life. As you do this work of inner growth and transformation, everything changes. Your life, your business, unfold with what seems like miraculous ease. And ease is also a soul quality — one of the hallmarks of power.

Power wielded in service to love, in harmony with wholeness, is among the most creative forces in the universe.

Power is the first quality to emerge from formlessness into form. It is the quality that gives shape and form to all of life.

But power is also a function of your incarnation, your personhood. Your personal power derives from everything you are and do. It grows or diminishes, depending on the choices you make, the actions you take, and the rhythms and patterns by which you live your life.

Your genetic makeup, your physical health and well-being, your emotional resiliency, your mental acuity and your energetic strength and flexibility all contribute to your personal power. So do the health of your relationships with others, with the natural world, with your home, your work, your creativity, your culture and your community.

You grow your personal power by being true to yourself, by giving yourself what you need, when you need it, by honoring your desires, by nourishing your heart and the heart of the world, by living your deepest values.

When you do what you say you’re going to do, you enhance your personal power. When you keep your promises to yourself, you gain power. When you align your choices and actions with your soul’s purposes, your true desires and intentions, you develop your personal power.

You may have lost touch with your personal power. You may have contracted away from it, or ignored it, or bought into a story that you don’t have it. Your capacity to hold and express your power may wax and wane, depending on what’s going on in your life, who you’re with, and what your circumstances are. But power is in you, as a seed or potential, waiting for you to claim it, develop your capacity to express it and use it skillfully to create your heart’s truest desires.

And, because it is a soul quality, it brings you into harmony and resonance with all beings, both in the incarnate world and in the subtle energy realms. It unites you with the soul of the earth, the Deva of the Cosmos, and the entire, sacred web of creation.

When you truly understand this, in a practical way, you’ll know that everything you choose to create is really a co-creation. And when you partner with the powers of wholeness – from those closest to you, like the soul or Deva of your business, your family, your home, to those that may seem impossibly far away, like the Devas of galaxies and multidimensional realms far removed from our own – your life and your business unfold in miraculous ways. You and your business become part of the activity of Power, part of the activity of Divine Order. You contribute to the evolution of a world that nourishes all of life.


Join me and a powerful circle of creative folks for the next session of Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins March 30th. You can sign up to listen to the recording of a preview teleclass, Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business, right here. And, if you already know that you’re ready for a journey that will transform your life and open up undreamed-of opportunities in your business, register for this magical 12-week program, here.

Grow Your Personal Power

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Your personal power derives from everything you are and do. It grows or diminishes, depending on the choices you make, the actions you take, and the rhythms and patterns by which you live your life.

Your genetic makeup, your physical health and well-being, your emotional resiliency, your mental acuity and your energetic strength and flexibility all contribute to your personal power. So do the health of your relationships with others, with the natural world, with your home, your work, your creativity, your culture and your community.

You grow your personal power by being true to yourself, by giving yourself what you need, when you need it, by honoring your desires, by nourishing your heart and the heart of the world, by living your deepest values.

When you do what you say you’re going to do, you enhance your personal power. When you keep your promises to yourself, you gain power. When you align your choices and actions with your soul’s purposes, and your true desires and intentions, you develop your personal power.

You may have lost touch with your personal power. You may have contracted away from it, or ignored it, or bought into a story that you don’t have it. Your capacity to hold and express your power may wax and wane, depending on what’s going on in your life, who you’re with, and what your circumstances are.

But power itself is a quality of your soul. It is in you, as a seed or potential, waiting for you to claim it, develop your capacity to express it and use it skillfully to create your heart’s truest desires.

And, because power is a spiritual quality, it brings you into harmony and resonance with all beings, both in the incarnate world and in the subtle energy realms. It unites you with the soul of the earth, the Deva of the Cosmos, and the entire, sacred web of creation.

When you truly understand this, in a practical way, you recognize that everything you choose to create is really a co-creation. You learn to work in partnership with the powers of wholeness – from those that are closest to you, like the soul or Deva of your business, your family, and your home, to those that may seem impossibly far away, like the Devas of galaxies, universes and multidimensional realms far removed from our own.


Personal Power

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Power is the first quality to emerge from formlessness into form. It gives shape and form to all of life.

But power is also a function of your incarnation, your personhood.

Aspects of Personal Power

Your personal power is composed of a number of qualities, including sovereignty, self-esteem, self-knowledge, self-appreciation, grounding, and the ability to be centered, present and focused. It includes strong, flexible, permeable boundaries, understanding, and insight.

There are a number of different aspects to personal power. Among them are the power to see, the power to choose, and the power to act.

The Power to See

First of all, you can choose how and what you see. You choose the lens through which you focus. You can choose to see the circumstances of your life as opportunities for growth and creation or you can choose to see them as wounds and disabilities.

Or you can simply choose to see them as they are. You can choose to see the continuum through which your soul carries you through experiences of wounding and disability into growth and creation.

How you see yourself and the world around you will determine what your experiences of that world will be.

Seeing, in other words, is in some way about belief.

If you believe that your relationship to the world is an antagonistic one, that the world is a scary place and you have to protect yourself from it, then you will diminish and deplete your power. Your power will move out to the boundary of your space to try and defend it, leaving the interior of your space – your inner self – vacant rather than filled with your presence.

When you are absent rather than present, you become more afraid, because you are disconnected from the source of your power. You also become more vulnerable to energies entering your space that don’t honor your sovereignty.

When you dissolve or transform the beliefs and stories that keep you from seeing things as they are, you clear the distorting lenses that shape your experience of reality. You see people and situations in their wholeness – their contradictions, vulnerability and fragmentation, as well as their beauty, strength, and delight – rather than through the scrim of your fears, acquired or inherited beliefs, projections and fantasies.

This is where the energy alchemy skills that you learn in Become Your Own Business Adviser can be very helpful.

The Power to Choose

A second aspect of power is the power to choose. Once you’ve seen reality as it is, you can choose to create more of the same reality, or you can choose to create something entirely different. Or you might choose to create something that builds on the past to shape a more vibrant future.

You have the power to choose what you’re going to create. That’s where purpose and intention enter into the picture.

You can choose your values. You can choose how you think, how you act, what you put your energy into, who you hang out with. Choose what you say Yes to, and what you say No to.

When your choices are in alignment with your vision, your values, and your soul’s purpose, they have the power of an arrow flying directly at its mark. The more you bring your choices into alignment with your values and your soul, the more power you will have.

The Power to Act

Another very important aspect of power is the power to act. You can choose to act in ways that support your values or that diminish them. You can act to enhance and contribute to the whole, or you can act in ways that benefit yourself at the expense of the whole – in which case, you will diminish yourself because whatever happens to the whole happens to you too.

You can act in alignment with Source or you can act against it.

When you own your power to see, to choose, and to act, you stand in your power, you stand in your sovereignty. Your desires manifest very quickly. The gap between your desire, intention, action and fulfillment becomes invisible.

When you don’t own your power, when you are stuck in narratives about victim-hood or obsess over your wounds or don’t follow through on your values and your commitments, you become less powerful, less effective.

Right relationship with power is essential for successfully creating anything – in your business and in your life.


Power and Powerlessness

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Continuing this week’s exploration of power, let’s talk today about power and powerlessness…

If we are so powerful, why do we sometimes feel so powerless? Why do we forget that we have the power of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth itself, in our bellies and lungs, in our bones and hearts?

We live in a culture that surrounds us with reminders of our powerlessness. We are bombarded with messages about what we don’t have, what we must have in order to be happy, successful, fulfilled. We live in an environment seething with not-enoughness. It pulls us out of our bodies, out of ourselves, and leaves us stranded on the far shore of striving to be smarter, richer, thinner, cleaner, more evolved, more innovative, more something.

When we believe we are not enough, we separate from ourselves. We disconnect from our bodies, our feelings, our sacredness, our souls — from the very sources of our power and nourishment. And, because our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all of our relationships, we disconnect from the earth, the natural world, and the sacred life all around us.

It’s no wonder, then, that we lose touch with the power we embodied so naturally and effortlessly when we were first born, when we were very young children.

I don’t want to sentimentalize childhood. The limitless qualities of our souls – love, freedom, abundance power — are vibrantly present in us when we are very young, but we have yet to develop the capacity to use these qualities effectively and skillfully. We have yet to learn how these infinite forces function, in a world that is defined by boundaries and limits. It’s what childhood is for – to learn, to grow, to experiment in the playground of incarnation.

My granddaughter, who’s just turned three, has been playing with power and the limits of power more consciously, in the past few months. She’s figuring out how power works. Her mum asks her if she wants a snack, and she roars NO! at the top of her lungs – just because she can. Then she laughs uproariously, filled with gleeful delight at her own capacity to choose, and climbs up onto the kitchen chair to devour her milk and carrot sticks.

Her relationship with power remains an exploratory one – free of guilt, shame, blame, and the rest of the gremlins that beset us as we grow up and take on the shapes imposed upon us by our world.

Our families, schools and other social and educational institutions make sure we understand and obey the agreed-upon norms of our society. It’s an uneasy — and I hope, temporary — but necessary accommodation. We can’t go around yelling NO! to things we actually want, because if we do, they will no longer be available to us.

We can’t even yell NO! to things we don’t want, because we live in a world of relationships, and relationships require empathy, kindness, courtesy, and yes, tact, give-and-take, the willingness to be flexible and open to other points of view.

So, in training to be social beings, we learn both the helpful and the not-so-helpful accommodations of civil society. We learn to listen and be receptive to others, but we also learn to dissemble, to tell polite white lies, to hide our true feelings and pretend to like things we don’t. We hold ourselves back from voicing our true desires. We turn away from that which we truly long for.

Eventually, when we’ve done this for long enough, we grow distant from our desires until we no longer know what we feel, what we want, or how to find our way back home to who we really are. We numb out. We fill the void left by our unfulfilled desires with things, people, and experiences that are poor substitutes for our own soul’s essence. We give over, give away or throw away our power until we no longer have access to it.

The resulting feelings of powerlessness take us even further away from our wholeness, from the essential wholeness and power of the world.

And so the cycle is perpetuated. It’s that disconnection from power that gives rise to mechanisms of control, abuse of authority, and social, economic, and religious structures that serve a small minority at the expense of everyone else.

We experience abuses of power – in our homes and families, classrooms, financial institutions, social and economic systems. We experience the ways in which power is unequally distributed and misused in our workplaces, in our systems of governance and justice.

We react to this growing body of experience and understanding in a variety of ways. Some of us shrink away from the responsibility of owning and wielding power because we are afraid of the corrupting influence of power. Or we become mired in anger, blame, impotence or beliefs about power and powerlessness that keep us from accessing the depths of our own personal power, and using it in service to wholeness through focused, inspired, collaborative action.

Eventually, we forget that power is a quality of soul, that it is within us and cannot be taken away from us, no matter what. We identify ourselves and others as victims, we carve up our world into ideological categories – oppressors, victims, oppressed. And we contribute to the distortions that come from conflating the uses and abuses of power with its essence, which is the activity of love.

Power is a quality of your soul. On a soul level, you have access to all the powers of wholeness — in this world and in the subtle energy worlds. When I say that the powers of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth and sun, are in you, I mean this quite literally. You can access these powers in your own energy body, once you develop the consciousness, skill and capacity to do so.

Much of the work we do in Become Your Own Business Adviser is this work of accessing and developing your power and other soul qualities, embodying and expressing them in your business and in your daily life.

As you do this work of inner growth and transformation, everything changes. Your life, your business, unfold with what seems like miraculous ease. Yet ease is also a soul quality, and one of the hallmarks of power.

Power wielded in service to love, in harmony with wholeness, is among the most creative forces in the universe.


Power and Control

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Continuing our exploration into the nature and sources of power…let’s talk about the relationship between power and control.

Power is one of the qualities of your soul. You were born with the quality of power pulsing through every cell of your body. It is what enabled you to make the journey from formlessness into form, from essence into incarnation. Without power, you would not exist.

So power is within you, always, just as it is within all forms of creation. Look out your window. That tree, with its bright green leaves, that squirrel scurrying through the grass, that blue sky, those scudding clouds – they all exude power, because each is an expression of spirit in the material world. And spirit can only become matter through the activity of power.

Power remains vibrantly alive in the natural world, where it is renewed through organic cycles and seasonal processes. It’s the reason why walking in the woods, climbing a mountain, swimming in the ocean, working in your garden, lying on a beach and looking up at the stars in the night sky can leave you feeling replenished, deeply rested, as powerful as a planet.

When you consciously connect with it, the natural world lends you its power, and helps you restore your own.

And yet, in the daily rub of life and work, of growing and caring for your business, your family, your body, your home, it’s easy to become disconnected from your soul, and with it, from the source of your power. When your website is hacked, or your child is ill, or that project you’ve poured your heart into doesn’t pan out, you can feel defeated, powerless, at the mercy of forces beyond your control.

There’s the rub. We mistake control for power, and become discouraged when we encounter what we cannot control. The truth is, life has its own rhythm and timing, its own inner logic and flow. We have very little control over what happens around us. But, we do have power.

We are powerful, when we choose to be.

Nelson Mandela used the long years of his imprisonment to develop inner power and freedom. So did Viktor Frankl, in Nazi death camps. They did this by choosing their state of consciousness – they chose clarity, peace, truth, freedom. They chose to meet the fist of brutality with the immense power of the human spirit.

Power is the active form of Love. Control, on the other hand, is powerlessness masquerading as power.


If you want to develop your power and grow your business as an expression of your most profound vision and genius, join me and our community of creative entrepreneurs for the Fall session of Become Your Own Business Adviser. The program begins on September 15th.

This 12-week journey will restore you to the magic and mystery of business as a creative agent of the Sacred in the world. Experience what it feels like to unfold the true majesty of your own being, and to create, in your business, a world that supports everyone in becoming more fully, more powerfully themselves.


Create with Power : Dissolve Fear

Power is the other face of fear

As entrepreneurs, we are as prolific as a summer garden. We create new offers, launch new programs, shape new business models, write, videotape, record and offer the fruits of our genius in a hundred different ways, every single day.

It can feel like flying into the sun.

Each time you create something truly new – each time you do something you’ve never done before – new aspects of your soul come into incarnation. You are inspired, focused, devoted. That creative joy, that unwavering flame of desire, ignites your power and fuels you through the hours of writing, shaping, crafting your heart’s work. Power, alignment, support and determination carry you through to your project’s completion.

And then. You get ready to present your new baby to your world — and the voices of fear wobble and quaver. They lumber out of their caves, grumbling loudly, growing more clamorous, insistent, until your high blue flight crashes down into the murk of what-if and yes-but and midnight terrors that leave you gasping for air. Who do you think you are? What if no-one signs up for my program, buys my product, wants my heart’s work? I’ll lose everything I’ve worked so hard for – I’ll die alone, unloved, living in a cardboard box.

Oh, those voices — those awfully convincing, utterly unreliable voices! They can stop you in your tracks, if you let them. They can cause you to stumble right before you reach the finish line.

There are two primary ways of meeting and dissolving fear. Both require power.

The first remedy for fear is love. Embrace your fearful selves with love, understanding and tenderness, and they will melt into your embrace instead of fighting you for control.

The other way is to bring a clearer, stronger vibration into the encounter with fear.

Love and power are both soul qualities. Power is the active form of love. It is also the other face of fear.

Turn on your power, and fear disappears.

Try it. See what happens. Share your discoveries here, or in the privacy of your own journal.

There’s still time to sign up and join us for tomorrow’s free teleclass, Create With Power. We’ll play with the energy alchemy of power, and learn how to gather power to create whatever we choose. See you there!


The Power to Choose: An experiment in freedom

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One way to experience any soul quality — power, love, gratitude — is to play with it. Be curious. Create lighthearted experiments to explore how this quality shows up in your life.

Here’s an experiment to explore how the power to choose shapes your life and your story around giving and receiving. Play with it; share your discoveries here, if you wish:

Pick one day this week — Monday! Or Thursday! Or any day, really — and declare it a transaction-free day. Announce it out loud: Today is a transaction-free day! Write it on your bathroom mirror. Declare it to your beloveds.

Today is a transaction-free day!

What does this mean? Well, it’s your experiment. You get to choose what it means for you.

The essence of it is this: Make this a day when you experience your power to choose, fully and freely. Without any agenda beyond your own desire to play with unconditional giving and receiving.

Declare this a day when you’ll give freely, just because you feel like it. No expectations, no intended outcomes, just free play — to see how you feel, who you are, and what happens, when you give just because you want to.

Make this a day when you’ll receive fully, just because you choose to. No guilt, no shame. No holding on or holding back or holding in. Just receiving — fully, honestly, because you have the power to do so.

My 3-year-old granddaughter is masterful at this. She admires herself in the full-length hallway mirror, turning this way and that, looking over her shoulder at her reflection, lost in wonder. She pats her sparkly new birthday dress, strokes her arms, flashes her rainbow-colored fingernails, her blue eyes shining with delight.

Enthralled by her own beauty, she is oblivious to the grownups hovering in her vicinity. Nothing exists for her but her own joy. I’ve never given a birthday gift that was received so fully.

And when she gives, it’s with the same unconditional delight. “Would you like a bite of my sandwich?” “Do you want to come and play with me?” She doesn’t much care whether the answer is yes or no. She’s immersed in her choices, acting on her desires, and oh, she is a powerful little girl!

So, play with this if you wish. If you’re at your local farmer’s market buying a bag of produce, offer the vendor your money as a gift, freely given. Receive the food you’ve chosen as a gift, with delight and gratitude.

Let yourself experience the essential truth of life — it is all a gift.

Notice when transactionittude creeps in. When you’re choosing to give because you want to be admired, or loved, or approved of, or because you believe you should, or are afraid of what will happen if you don’t.

Notice when receiving is fraught with contingency. Fear that you’ll have to reciprocate; doubt about what you deserve, and why, and how. Shyness about expressing your joy, your gratitude. Notice when you contract away from the gift, the compliment, your reflection in the mirror.

Breathe. Return to your chosen declaration. Return to your transaction-free day.

What happens when you exercise your power to choose what and how you’ll give, what and how you’ll receive? When you give without hesitation or expectation? When you receive everything as a gift?

Who have you become, at the end of your transaction-free day?

If you want to explore the nature of power, and its essential role in shaping your story and the story of your business, join me for a free teleclass, Create With Power, Wednesday, September 9th at 12 noon, Pacific Time. Get a taste of energy alchemy in action, and learn more about my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins on September 28th.


  • You are a sovereign being,
    a fractal of the Sacred,
    a fractal of Wholeness.
  • The flow of your life.
    The soul of your business.
  • Grow your business.
    Grow yourself.
  • Expand your life. Evolve your business.
  • The art of alignment. The miracle of action.
  • Trust in the power of your perfect unfolding.
  • Permission to grow, to flow, to know.
  • You learn about freedom by experiencing what it feels like to be bound.
  • Beyond your beliefs, beyond your drama — the truth of your life.
  • Success is becoming the person who can ask for hugs and holding when your own strength has deserted you.
  • Embrace the mystery at the heart of creation.
  • Your soul sends out tendrils of light and fragrance into the world.
  • You are the gift — and the giver.
    You are the Love, and the lover.
  • At the heart of all things — even limiting beliefs and painful programming — is wholeness.
  • Surrender is an act of will. It is aligning your will with the will of the Sacred.
  • You learn about sovereignty through the experience of being dethroned.
  • Love transforms.
  • Your soul's purpose is to participate in wholeness, to express wholeness.
  • True Desire is a messenger of your soul.
    It leads directly to your soul’s purposes.
  • Unfold the miracle of your life and business.
  • Business = Love in action.
  • Everything you need is already within you, waiting to unfold and express itself.
  • Your inner world shapes your outer world.
    Success is an inside job.
  • You are the story, and the story-maker.
    Your life is yours to shape.