True Desires, True Stories

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Over the past 35+ years, I’ve collaborated with thousands of clients and students to help them create lives and businesses that they love. Much has changed, in the landscape of our world, during that time. But this truth remains: No matter what circumstances you find yourself in, or what issues you face, the key to creating your heart’s deepest, truest desires is to reconfigure your inner ecology to unite it with your soul. 

The more skillfully you do this, the more gracefully your outer world takes on the shape of your soul, and harmonizes with the pattern it holds for your life. 



This is just as true of your business as it is of your life. When you make this ordering of your inner ecology and the ecology of your business the center of your daily practice, your soul and the Deva of your business together can craft stories that heal, transform, bless, and re-shape your world.

Business is a soul path. At every stage, it calls you to free yourself of whatever binds you – outworn beliefs, stories about who you are and what you can create, ancestral agreements about the nature of the world and your place in it. Anything that attempts to shrink the vastness of your soul into a story, template or pattern that is – inevitably — too small for you, must go.

This isn’t easy. When you’ve been immersed in a particular story or world view for much of your life – especially if your identity is shaped around it – it can be hard to see that it is just a story. Hard to look beyond it to see that there are an infinite number of other stories you could choose to shape and to live by.

And, not all stories bind you. True stories liberate you. Like true desire, they are the voices of your soul, calling you to a fuller, more creative, more abundant life.

Today’s Practice

Today, consider the effects that your stories have on your business. Often, these are stories you’ve shaped out of accumulated past experiences, layered over earlier, childhood beliefs. And, hidden in the life of your business is a treasure-trove of stories that holds a map for its becoming.

In your journal, explore these questions:

  • What stories of freedom, possibility and liberation can you tell about your business? What experiences, accomplishments and milestones line the winding road that is the history of your business?

    Draw a timeline of your business, from its inception to now. Mark these occasions and name them, on your timeline. No occasion is too small to celebrate. Draw or sketch an image or symbol, or add photos of these stories, if you wish. Create a story of triumph and celebration.

  • What essence or soul qualities gave birth to your business, and contribute to its present incarnation? If you aren’t sure what these are, look to your deepest, truest desires, which always express soul qualities.

    On your business’s timeline, mark those events, experiences and turning points when your vision and determination, your foresight, courage, perseverance and grit, your wise choices, your wiliness to take risks, your heart and generosity expanded the world of your business. Take some time to acknowledge each one. Embrace and celebrate each of these essence qualities. Celebrate the You who embodies them now and has done the work to plant them firmly in the world of your business.

  • What past dreams, projections, or fixed ideas about yourself or the world are you ready to release? Which fantasies would horrify you if they were to be fulfilled today? Which ones no longer hold any real juice or vitality for you?

    Mark these down (in pencil!) on the timeline of your business too, in the order in which they occurred. Thank them, and bless your past selves, who created and nurtured these stories. Then, release them with love, and erase them from your timeline.

I wish you the miracle of true stories, forgiveness, gratitude, and celebration.


Marketing Joy: The True Predictors of Sustainable Success

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Last fall, my son James launched his brand-new business, a comics and classic games shop in the university district of our hometown. He has been dreaming this business into being since he was in his mid-teens. And now, his dream has landed: An airy, light-filled, playfully funky space with painted wooden kitchen tables and comfy chairs for playing board games; a red couch in front of a grand old console TV where folks sit, intently playing video games; a gorgeous mural (see the image above!), painted by a local artist. And floor-to-ceiling shelves lined with comics, games, and game paraphernalia.

Eighteen months before the store opened, James decided it was time to act on his vision. I had the privilege of a front row seat over the next several months, as he clarified what he wanted to create, and why, and how. We talked, and talked, and talked. During working lunches and walks along the beach. Over dinners that grew cold as he sketched out on paper napkins the broad strokes, and then the nitty-gritty details, of what would become his new store.

James has always loved comics and games. And business. He founded his first business when he was eight years old…but that’s a story for another day. He delights in creating something that makes both him and his customers happy. He loves offering his heart, his creativity, his skill and compassion in service to others. He loves making money in a way that serves both his beloveds and his community.

His vision for his new store has always been a vision of community. A space where everyone feels welcome, feels included, feels at home.

“The gaming community can be cliquish, unfriendly. New people don’t feel welcome, so they don’t come out to tournaments and other events,” James said. “I want a place where nerds and geeks (like me!) feel just as much at home as anyone else. Where everyone who wants to play can be themselves, hang out, make friends, and have fun without worrying about whether or not they’ll fit in.”

With that central vision in mind, James went about the business of creating his store. It took hundreds of hours of focused, intentional work. Market research; hammering out and refining a functional business plan; applying for start-up funding; finding his ideal location; revising his ideal location, based on the amount of funding he was able to generate; negotiating a lease; managing the construction and remodelling of the new space; setting up accounts with distributors; learning the basics of book-keeping; learning what stock to order, and when, and in what quantities; learning how to manage cash flow, inventory, and so much more. He did all of this while continuing to work at his full-time job.

James is devoted to his vision. He created it with such heart and impeccability that within the first couple of weeks his store had become a neighbourhood gathering place. Now, five months later, people still line up outside the door each morning, waiting for the store to open.

The store is thriving. James continues to reach out to his community, finding creative ways in which he and his business can serve. After talking with teachers at neighbouring elementary schools, he’s arranged a weekly date when their kids come in to play Magic Card games, which help them learn how to read while having fun. A fundraising barbecue and silent auction netted several thousand dollars for a local women’s shelter. Community artists display their work at the store, and gain exposure and recognition as well as sales. James’s new business is a gift — to himself, his beloveds, his community, and our world. He’s exhausted, exhilarated, and happier than he’s ever been.

He’s learning so much about what it takes to succeed in business. And, because he grew up with entrepreneurial parents, he understands viscerally how to navigate the sometimes-treacherous shoals of entrepreneurship.

In a recent conversation, he said, “I’ve never worried about money, because I’ve always felt I could work more if I needed more. What’s scary is realizing that I’ve reached an upper limit – not because I’m not willing to work, but because there are no more hours in the day.”

Faced with the necessary limits of time, energy and just plain being human, he’s figuring out how to pace himself; how to hire and work collaboratively with staff; how to build time off into his schedule; how to nurture his marriage and friendships while staying focused on growing his business.

In one of our early conversations, he explained why he was choosing to locate his store in the university district, rather than in some other, more affluent area of town. “Low-income neighbourhoods have a greater need for, and openness towards community. When you don’t have much, you rely on each other for practical help, support, and encouragement. Everyone needs community, but when you don’t have a lot of money, you can’t pretend you don’t need each other.”

It delights me to see my son blossom into his genius. And to observe how he meets and makes use of the gifts and challenges of growing a successful, profitable and sustainable business.

At the heart of his success are the qualities of his being, his devotion to his vision, and his unshakeable commitment to the soul of his business.

So what are these qualities that account for the astonishingly swift success of his business, in a relatively stagnant economy?

  • First and foremost, James trusts himself. He trusts his vision, his intuition, his inner discernment. He trusts his ability to make good decisions, and to revise course when necessary. He trusts his ability to learn what he doesn’t yet know. He trusts his creative spirit. He trusts his capacity for meaningful work. He trusts that what he does makes a positive difference.
  • He has identified a need that goes beyond the products he sells — the universal human need to be seen, loved, celebrated, welcomed. And he meets that need with his own profound desire to create connection and community.
  • He is willing to do the work to bring his vision to life. And he knows that staying true to himself, to his values and his soul, is the best way to get there.
  • He views all of his experiences – even the difficult and challenging ones — as opportunities to learn, grow and discover what works and what doesn’t. When it’s necessary to correct course, he does it cleanly, without wallowing in drama, shame, or the sinkhole of self-doubt.
  • He is generous and open, without abdicating the responsibilities of leadership. His customers and staff know that they are essential to the ecology of his store – they help make it a welcoming, safe, fun and loving space.

    In some ways, the store functions the way a traditional martial arts dojo does, with everyone pitching in. Experienced gamers mentor and teach newbies. Customers look out for, and support each other. James fosters an atmosphere of good humour, playfulness, learning and generosity. When his sole full-time staff member was called away to a family funeral, several of his customers stepped in to stock the shelves, set up the tables for a tournament, manage the till, and help out in whatever ways were needed. They feel an ownership of the space, and they respond accordingly.

  • James sets clear boundaries and holds realistic expectations – for himself, his business, his staff, and his customers. This allows him to keep his heart open and his vision clear. He responds to situations as they arise, being spontaneous and flexible when it feels right to do so, and acting swiftly and decisively when the need arises.

It’s early days yet, but I’ve a feeling my son has a long and success-filled entrepreneurial life ahead of him. He’s one of the good guys. He makes the world a kinder, happier, more generous place by his presence, his actions, and through his business.

Whether you are just starting out on your own entrepreneurial journey, or have years of business experience under your belt, my guess is that you’re in business because it offers you a creative playground unlike any other. It’s an opportunity to grow into your soul’s gifts, to be a source of holy joy, to shape a world of love and prosperity, generosity and kindness, healing and transformation for everyone who wishes to participate in it.

I feel immensely grateful and blessed to have walked this soul path of conscious entrepreneurship for more than three decades. My business has helped me develop strength and compassion, wisdom and discernment. It gives me the opportunity to serve my tribe wholeheartedly, every single day. It supports me, and my clients and students, through sickness and health. It has been there for me in every kind of emotional weather, bringing me more joy and contentment than I can begin to articulate.

Sustainable success is grounded in reality, and in the willingness to shape your business and life in harmony with your true desires and deepest values. It’s predicated on self-knowledge, an understanding of the needs and desires of your customers, a heart spacious enough to serve joyfully, with love and delight. It calls for a playful, resilient spirit, curiosity, and the desire to learn, grow and evolve.

No matter what your circumstances, you can choose to bloom where you are planted. And through your business, you can create a garden in which others can flourish fully and freely too.


Soul-Powered Success

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There is a profound hunger for freedom, spaciousness, abundance and ease, among our community of creative entrepreneurs. We long to contribute our creativity, skills and heart to the task of building a world that works for everyone. We believe in business as a soul path. We also want to flourish, to build a foundation of wealth and prosperity for ourselves, our beloveds, our communities and our planet.

And yet, when we pursue success on terms that are not our own, we suffer. Ease and joy are lost in the daily grind of too much and not enough. Too many things clamoring for our time and attention. Too many responsibilities, demands, needs to be met. Not enough time, support, spaciousness, breathing room.

At every stage of business, we are offered these gifts and challenges: To meet our own needs and those of our businesses, with a full heart. To honor our true desires even when they seem to contradict each other. And to stay creative, playful, engaged and flexible while taking inspired action to fulfill our vision of what we and our businesses can be.

To explore what sustainable success looks and feels like, for you, please join me for a 7-day complimentary e-course, Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business, starting March 6th. You can register for it here.

The true basis for abiding success, in life and in business, is presence and connection. When you are deeply connected with your soul, you know what’s right for you, and you act to fulfill your true desires. When you are deeply connected with the soul of your business, you have a clear vision of its life and purpose, and a powerful ally in bringing that vision down to earth.

Your definition of success is as individual as you are — and it will change over time, as your true desires, and those of your business, continue to evolve.

Your business has its own soul, its own essence and purpose, its own allies, life path and reason for being. In this 7-day e-course, you’ll meet the soul of your business, and learn how to partner with it to co-create the kind of success that nurtures your soul, builds a foundation of wealth, prosperity and provision for you and your beloveds, and makes a lasting and positive contribution to the soul of the world.

Sustainable success is anchored in clear intention, attuned to your own desires and those of your business, followed by purposeful action.

By the end of our seven-day exploration, you will have a direct experience of the depth and power of your own soul, and the soul of your business. You’ll get a taste of the energy alchemy skills and practices that are the cornerstone of my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins on April 4th. It is a business-building, life-transforming program unlike any other.


Sign up for Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business. You’ll be very glad you did.

Marketing Transformation

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You cannot market transformational services using traditional marketing formulae. I don’t think you can market anything effectively in that way, but it’s a mug’s game, trying to express the truths of sacred work in terms of pain points and other traditional marketing-speak.

You can, however, talk about benefits, because transformational work serves and benefits people. Those benefits may be ones that haven’t been valued, in the past, in the world of business and marketing, but most everyone understands the benefits of experiencing peace in their relationships, ease and clarity in making difficult choices, or fluency in communicating with their co-workers. 

To bring your work to the attention of those folks who need what you have to offer, begin with attunement, resonanace and empathy. You already know your tribe — they are the folks who come to you because what you offer is exactly what they need. You know what they long for, what moves them, what grieves them, what they desire, what they want to create. You know the particular forms their needs and desires take, and where these intersect with your own genius, the work you do, the programs and services you offer. You know how you can serve them, and serve their souls.

Begin there. Call on the Devas of communication, simplicity and service to hold the space for you, as you begin writing or speaking to your folks. Use the World of Your Business Playbook, to help you craft a language that speaks simply and eloquently to the folks who belong in the world of your business. Anchor the universal in the particular, the sacred in the everyday world in which we all live. 

Use language that is concrete, down-to-earth, rich in sensory detail. Use language that creates vivid pictures in your readers’ minds, that allows them to enter into the world you’re describing and to inhabit it so fully that they are breathing its air, and savouring its flavours.

Ask your allies — those clients and students who have benefited from your work — to talk about their experiences, and let their stories speak for you. You can do this by interviewing them, posting testimonials from them, inviting them to write guest posts for your blog, or in a variety of other ways.

And, tell true stories. Share your own stories. Share stories about folks with whom you’ve worked (with their permission, of course). Share the stories that show how the spirit of transformation works in the everyday world.

Our world has changed. Sacred teachings that at one time were available only to a chosen few, and only through arduous discipleships that often required a surrender of sovereignty to gurus and shamans, are now circulating far more freely. 

In some ways, this evolution is akin to the socio-political changes wrought by the invention of the Gutenberg press. Knowledge that had been available only to elites via hand-scribed and very expensive manuscripts that only scholars could decipher, became available to anyone who could afford the price of a printed book.  

There are dangers in the free dissemination of information. It can be misunderstood, misused, reduced to a cliche, or worse. But there are also incalculable benefits.

Sacred teachings were always intended to bless and serve the world. The energetic shifts that are happening on the planet now require each of us to step up into our wholeness and sovereignty, and to take responsibility for shaping a world that works for everyone. To do this, we need skills. It’s why I continue to teach transformational programs like Rule Your World From the Inside Out, and Become Your Own Business Adviser — to offer anyone who wants to learn them, a set of skills and practices with which they can be effective agents of the sacred in the world. 

Think about the deep desire that impels you to do what you do. Consider how your offers serve the folks in your world. Then, speak directly to them, from your heart, without jargon, abstraction, or obfuscation. Marketing is soul art.


Sovereign Partnership, Soul Business

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We’re part way through the fall session of Become Your Own Business Adviser, and the discussions in our community this week are focused around this question: What does it mean, to love your business so completely that you want it to be itself, even if that makes you uncomfortable?

Does loving it in this way mean that you let it choose its own path and destiny, no matter what? What if your business morphs into something utterly alien to you and the values you hold most dear? What if it devours you, enslaves you, drives you into debt or drink, or worse?

These are practical questions. The fear that your business will gallop off in the wrong direction, dragging you over thorny ground and ripping you to shreds, can keep you from making those choices and decisions that are best for it, and for you.

Your business is a collaboration between you and the soul of your business. You and your Business Deva are both sovereign, within your partnership. The soul of your business can offer inspiration and guidance; it can lend its power and the power of its allies to help grow your business. But it cannot determine the direction that your business will take. Only you can do that.

If you’ve abdicated your sovereignty in this — or any other — relationship in the world of your business, that is a choice you’ve made. It may be an unconscious choice, one driven by unexamined stories or beliefs about power and powerlessness, among other things. Or it may, quite simply, be that you’ve misunderstood the nature of your role in the world of your business. 

In the collaboration between you and your Business Deva, you are the only one who can act in the physical world. Your choices shape the world of your business. While your Business Deva holds the pattern for the perfect unfolding of the life of your business, that pattern unfolds according to the choices and decisions that you make, day to day.  

If (for example) your business is expanding so rapidly that the quality of your service to your clients and customers deteriorates, or your marketing strategies make you uneasy because they slice across the grain of your values, then you have both the power and the responsibility to correct course. You aren’t helpless to effect change — you always have the power to choose the path that you and your business will take.

Your business doesn’t bolt headlong in directions that aren’t right for you — you choose its path; you guide its growth; you do what you believe is best for it. Since you’re human, you’ll do the very best you can, given the current state of your own skill and understanding. Your choices won’t always be perfect. They certainly won’t be immutable. You’ll change course, you’ll refine and reshape the world of your business throughout its life, and yours.

Your relationship with your business is much like your relationship with your child. Your child is a sovereign being. He is born of you, but he is not you. He has his own life, his own gifts and challenges, his own soul’s purposes. You honour his sovereignty. You pay close attention to his innate abilities, to the natural flow of his desires. You encourage and support him in becoming fully himself. You won’t do this perfectly, but you’ll do the best you can. Because you love him, and you want him to grow up to be himself, strong and tender, sovereign and free.

Because you love her, you won’t let your five-year-old play with fire, no matter how fascinated she is by the zip and flare of a match or the dance and crackle of flames. Nor will you allow your thirteen-year-old to drive just because she really, really wants to. Your job as her parent is to discern what choices she is ready and able to make — and to define and enforce the limits of her discretion. Your role is to nurture her gifts, the skills and knowledge that will help her step into her power, and the courage and confidence with which to choose her own path wisely, when she is ready.

Until then, you’ll guide her, provide for her, and set the boundaries within which she feels safe and secure enough to play, explore, and flourish. You have a particular role to play in your child’s life. That role changes as you and your child grow together. 

Similarly, you have a role to play in the life of your business. You are its leader and guide, in the physical world. You make the choices that shape the flow and direction of its life. And your role will continue to evolve, as both you and your business grow together.

If you’re feeling inadequate or powerless in relationship to your business, resentful of its demands, exhausted by it, or unhappy with it in some way, here are some questions to explore. Stay loose, in this exploration. Meet it with a spirit of curiosity and experimentation:

  • In what ways do you feel sovereign, in relationship to your business?
  • Where — and to whom — have you abdicated your sovereignty?
  • Are you allowing someone or something else — the marketplace, your own stories and fears, received ideas about what your business should be — to override your ability to make clear and sovereign choices grounded in love, anchored in the communion between you and the soul of your business?
  • If so, identify the places where you’ve relinquished your power to choose. Tune into your true desires. What do you really want? Choose that instead.

    Take stock of how the world of your business feels, right now. Then, take back your sovereign power to create a new story for your business.


    Each year, in November, I lead a two-day virtual retreat, Dreaming in the Dark. Join me on the weekend of November 14 & 15, to write the new story of your business for the New Year.

    We’ll begin by clearing the past to make room for a future that’s filled with love and prosperity, wholeness, vibrancy, and creative service, in the world of your business. We’ll reflect on the year that’s coming to a close, celebrate our triumphs, grieve our losses, and release what no longer belongs with us.

    Then we’ll craft a new story for your business, for the year ahead. You’ll shape your business’s new story in partnership with your own soul, and the soul of your business.

    We’ll close the retreat by planting and energizing the new story for your business for the new year.

    Read more about the retreat, and, when you’re ready, sign up here.


  • The Care & Feeding of Boundaries

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    This morning, I’m honoring a profound desire to tend to my boundaries, which have become somewhat diffuse and hazy this week.

    Boundaries are not walls, but rather, those forms that create and hold the evolving shape of your life. When I tuned into mine this morning, they felt studded with — and in places, shredded by — bits and pieces of the world’s stuff, embedded into my energy field like shrapnel.

    As incarnate beings, we are both boundaried and boundless. We inhabit an ecology of being that includes everything from the unconditioned realms of unity and essence — in which we are one with all that is — to the pattern and form of our lives, which unfold in the conditioned realms of the 3-D world, as well as the subtle energy realms in-between.

    Incarnation is a boundaried state in which the boundless soul enters into a conditioned field, and takes on a particular shape and form — a pattern that makes each of us uniquely ourselves, a very specific and individual expression of the Sacred.

    Without boundaries, we would remain in the realms of formlessness. We choose to incarnate in the physical world because we love this earth, because we love the human family. Being here as incarnate beings offers us a richly creative environment in which to grow, serve the earth, serve humanity, experience and express our soul’s qualities within the form and pattern of our lives, and act as generative, co-creative partners to shape a world of love and blessing.

    On a practical, everyday level, it’s pretty simple. Boundaries help me be more fully myself. When I am myself, I’m able to share myself — the gifts of soul, the gift of my personhood — with my world. I can be loving, kind, funny, playful, generous. My presence blesses me and my world.

    When I lose myself — either by merging with someone or something else, or losing my sovereignty in some other way, by allowing that which is not-me to become stronger in my energetic space than my own soul — I become a blobby mess, unable to connect with my soul, and unavailable for true communion with anyone else.

    For me, there’s a rhythm of engagement and solitude that helps me stay whole and present. Too much engagement and I fray around the edges. Too much solitude and I lose connection with my heart. So it’s a dance rather than a fixed state of being.

    For the past 40+ years, I’ve had a daily practice of cleansing and restoring my body, energy body, and energy field. And, during that time, the world around me has changed, as have I.

    As I age, what I need to sustain the vibrancy and health of my body and energy body changes as well. As the world around us changes, those personal practices of cleansing, nourishment and restoration that were effective and powerful in the past, become less so.

    So, with my soul’s guidance, and in partnership with my Business Deva, the Devas of the Earth and Cosmos, the Devas of the Elements, the Devas of soul qualities, and my own embodied creativity and discernment, I devise new ways of harmonizing the elements of my energy body that are more skillful and responsive to the times in which we live.

    Today, I’m filling the boundary of my energy field with flexibility and strength; release; receptivity and discernment; love and power; radiance and completion. Each of these qualities helps differentiate my incarnate being from the world around me. And, through that differentiation, I become more available for true relationship with my world today.

    How about you? What is your relationship with your own boundaries today? How do you honor and care for them? How do challenges with your boundaries affect your life and business?


    Uncertainty: An Energy Alchemy Approach

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    Yesterday I had an appointment with an orthopaedic surgeon, who put me on a waitlist for hip replacement surgery. Here in Canada we’re blessed to have universal health-care, which means that the cost of my surgery will be covered by the modest health care insurance premiums I pay each month. The flip side of this is that surgical waitlists for joint replacements are up to a year long, and there’s no way to predict when the surgery will take place.

    When I returned home from the appointment, I called a meeting with my soul, my inner selves, and my Business Deva, to explore how best to integrate surgery and recovery into the world of my business, when the timing of these events is unknown.

    Holding the surgery/recovery in relationship to the ecology of my business, I invited both my soul and my Business Deva to harmonize these future elements with the pattern each of them holds for the perfect unfolding of my life, and the life of my business.

    I watched timelines dissolve, only to emerge in different shapes and forms in my business’s ecology. The pattern of my life and business is being reconfigured to include the surgery. Allies appeared, from many dimensions, to lend their power and support to this reconfiguration. I went to bed with a peaceful heart, feeling in every cell of my body, the great movement of Divine Timing.

    Over the next few days, I’ll do the things I can do now, to prepare for the surgery and its aftermath. Hire support. Talk with my family about what to expect, and what I might need from them. Arrange to buy or rent the equipment I’ll need after the surgery. But mostly, I’ll continue to harmonize the surgery and healing with the pattern that my soul and the Deva of my business hold, for the perfect unfolding of my life and my business.

    When you’re facing uncertainty in your life — whether it’s due to illness, a relationship gone awry, death of a beloved, financial constriction, or any one of a myriad possibilities that have the potential to derail you — energy alchemy helps you align with the powers and potentials that love and support your incarnation and the world of your business.

    It’s simple. It’s practical. It’s a profoundly relational way to take care of business.

    How do you handle uncertainty in your life, and its potential impact on your business?


    If you want to learn how to use powerful energy alchemy skills and practices to shape the world of your business in alignment with its soul, and with your own deepest values, please join me for the fall session of Become Your Own Business Adviser. Read reviews and praise from alumni who have benefited from this powerfully transformative 12-week program, which begins on September 28. Registration is open now. Early registration discount is available until August 28.


    Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business

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    There is a deep desire for freedom, spaciousness, abundance and ease, among our community of creative entrepreneurs. We long to contribute our creativity, skills and heart to the task of building a world that works for everyone. We believe in business as a soul path. We also want to flourish, to build a foundation of wealth and prosperity for ourselves, our beloveds, our communities and our planet.

    And yet, when we pursue success on terms that are not our own, we suffer. Ease and joy are lost in the daily grind of too much and not enough. Too many things clamoring for our time and attention. Too many responsibilities, demands, needs to be met. Not enough time, support, spaciousness, breathing room.

    At every stage of business, we are offered these gifts and challenges: To meet our own needs and those of our businesses, with a full heart. To honor our true desires even when they seem to contradict each other. And to stay creative, playful, engaged and flexible while taking inspired action to fulfill our vision of what we and our businesses can be.

    To explore what sustainable success looks and feels like, for you, please join me for a 7-day complimentary e-course, Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business, starting August 17th. You can register for it here.

    The true basis for abiding success, in life and in business, is presence and connection. When you are deeply connected with your soul, you know what’s right for you, and you act to fulfill your deepest desires. When you are deeply connected with the soul of your business, you have a clear vision of its life and purpose, and a powerful ally in bringing that vision down to earth.

    Your definition of success is as individual as you are — and it will change over time, as your true desires, and those of your business, continue to evolve.

    Your business has its own soul, its own essence and purpose, its own allies, life path and reason for being. In this 7-day e-course, you’ll meet the soul of your business, and learn how to partner with it to co-create the kind of success that nurtures your soul, builds a foundation of wealth, prosperity and provision for you and your beloveds, and makes a lasting and positive contribution to the soul of the world.

    Sustainable success is anchored in inner attunement with your own desires and those of your business, followed by clear and purposeful action.

    By the end of our seven-day exploration, you will have a direct experience of the depth and power of your own soul, and the soul of your business. You’ll get a taste of the energy alchemy skills and practices that are the cornerstone of my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins September 28. It is a business-building, life-transforming program unlike any other.

    Sign up for Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business. You’ll be very glad you did.


    Power: Love in Action

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    Power is one of the qualities of your soul. You were born with the quality of power pulsing through every cell of your body. It is what enabled you to make the journey from formlessness into form, from essence into incarnation. Without power, you would not exist.

    So power is within you, always, just as it is within all forms of creation. Open your eyes and look out your window. That tree, with its tender new leaves, the squirrel scurrying through the grass, that wide blue sky, those scudding clouds – they all exude power, because each is an expression of spirit in the material world. And spirit can only become matter through the activity of power.

    Power remains vibrantly alive in the natural world, where it is renewed through organic cycles and seasonal processes. It’s the reason why walking in the woods, climbing a mountain, swimming in the ocean, working in your garden, lying on a beach and looking up at the stars in the night sky can leave you feeling replenished, deeply rested, as powerful as a planet.
    When you consciously connect with it, the natural world lends you its power, and helps you restore your own.

    And yet, in the daily noise of life and work, of growing and caring for your business, your family, your body, your home, it’s easy to become disconnected from your soul, and with it, from the source of your power. When your website is hacked, or your child is ill, or that project you’ve poured your heart into doesn’t pan out, you can feel defeated, powerless, at the mercy of forces beyond your control.

    There’s the rub. We mistake control for power, and become discouraged when we encounter what we cannot control. The truth is, life has its own rhythm and timing, its own inner logic and flow. We have very little control over what happens around us. But, we do have power.

    Your personal power is composed of a number of qualities, including sovereignty, self-esteem, self-knowledge, self-appreciation, grounding, and the ability to be centered, present and focused. It includes strong, flexible, permeable boundaries, understanding, and insight.

    There are many different aspects to personal power. All of them hinge on your power to choose.

    You choose the lens through which you focus. You can choose to see the circumstances of your life as opportunities for growth and creation or you can choose to see them as wounds and disabilities.

    Or you can simply choose to see them as they are. You can choose to see the continuum through which your soul carries you through experiences of wounding and disability into growth and creation.

    How you see yourself and the world around you will determine what your experiences of that world will be.

    Seeing, in other words, is in some way about belief.

    If you believe that your relationship to the world is an antagonistic one, that the world is a scary place and you have to protect yourself from it, then you will diminish and deplete your power. Your power will move out to the boundary of your space to try and defend it, leaving the interior of your space – your inner self – vacant rather than filled with your presence.

    When you are absent rather than present, you are vulnerable to energies entering your space that don’t honor or respect your sovereignty.

    The energy alchemy work we do in Become Your Own Business Adviser is powerful because it brings you back into right relationship with every aspect of your own ecology, and that of your business. Power flows from the integrity and harmony of your being, and the coherency and integrity of the world of your business.

    When you transform the beliefs and patterns that keep you from seeing things as they are, you clear the distorting lenses that shape your experience of reality. You see people and situations in their wholeness – their contradictions, vulnerability and fragmentation, as well as their beauty, strength, and delight – rather than through the scrim of your fears, beliefs, programming and stories.

    Once you see things as they are, you can choose to create more of the same, or you can choose to create something entirely different. Or you might choose to create something that builds on the past to shape a more vibrant future.

    You have the power to choose what you’re going to create, purposefully, intentionally.

    You can choose your values. You can choose how you think, how you act, what you put your energy into, who you hang out with. Choose what you say Yes to, and what you say No to.

    When your choices are in alignment with your vision, your values, and your soul’s purpose, they have the power of an arrow flying directly at its mark. The more you bring your choices into alignment with your values and your soul, the more power you will have.

    You can choose to act in ways that support your values or that diminish them. You can act to enhance and contribute to the whole, or you can act in ways that benefit yourself at the expense of the whole – in which case, you will diminish yourself because whatever happens to the whole happens to you too.

    You can act in alignment with Source or you can act against it.

    When you own your power to see, to choose, and to act, you stand in your power, you stand in your sovereignty. Then, things start to manifest very quickly. The gap between your intention, action and result becomes almost invisible.

    When you don’t own your power, when you are stuck in narratives about victimization or obsess over your wounds or don’t follow through on your values and your commitments, you become much less effective.

    Right relationship with power is essential for successfully creating anything – in your business and in your life.

    We are powerful, when we choose to be.

    Nelson Mandela used the long years of his imprisonment to develop inner power and freedom. So did Viktor Frankl, in Nazi death camps. They did this by choosing their state of consciousness – they chose clarity, peace, truth, freedom. They chose to meet the fist of brutality with the immense power of the human spirit.

    Power is the active form of Love. Control is powerlessness masquerading as power.

    If we are so powerful, why do we forget that we are incarnate souls? Why do we forget that we have the power of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth itself, in our bellies and lungs, in our bones and hearts?

    We live in a culture that surrounds us with reminders of our powerlessness. It bombards us with messages about what we don’t have, what we must have in order to be happy, successful, fulfilled. We live in an environment teeming with not-enoughness. It pulls us out of our bodies, out of ourselves, and leaves us stranded on the far shore of striving to be smarter, richer, thinner, cleaner, more evolved, more innovative, more something.

    When we believe we are not enough, we separate from ourselves. We disconnect from our bodies, our feelings, our sacredness, our souls — from the very sources of our power and nourishment. And, because our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all of our relationships, we disconnect from the earth, the natural world, and the sacred life all around us.

    It’s no wonder, then, that we lose touch with the power we embodied so naturally and effortlessly when we were first born, when we were very young children.

    I don’t want to sentimentalize childhood. The limitless qualities of our souls – love, freedom, abundance, power — are vibrantly present in us when we are very young, but we have yet to develop the capacity to use these qualities effectively and skillfully. We have yet to learn how these infinite forces function, in a world that is defined by boundaries and limits. It’s what childhood is for – to learn, to grow, to experiment in the playground of incarnation.

    My granddaughter, who turned three last summer, has been playing with power and the limits of power more consciously, in the past few months. She’s figuring out how power works. Her mum asks her if she wants a snack, and she roars NO! at the top of her lungs – just because she can. Then she laughs uproariously, filled with gleeful delight at her own capacity to choose, and climbs up onto the kitchen chair to devour her milk and carrot sticks.

    Her relationship with power remains an exploratory one – free of guilt, shame, blame, and the rest of the gremlins that beset us as we grow up and take on the shapes imposed upon us by our world.

    Our families, schools and other social and educational institutions make sure we understand and obey the agreed-upon norms of our society. It’s an uneasy — and I hope, temporary — but necessary accommodation. We can’t go around yelling NO! to things we actually want, because if we do, they will no longer be available to us.

    We can’t even yell NO! to things we don’t want, because we live in a world of relationships, and relationships require empathy, kindness, courtesy, and yes, tact, give-and-take, the willingness to be flexible and open to other points of view.

    So, in training to be social beings, we learn both the helpful and the not-so-helpful accommodations of civil society. We learn to listen and be receptive to others, but we also learn to dissemble, to tell polite white lies, to hide our true feelings and pretend to like things we don’t. We hold ourselves back from voicing our true desires. We turn away from that which we truly long for.

    Eventually, when we’ve done this for long enough, we grow distant from our desires until we no longer know what we feel, what we want, or how to find our way back home to who we really are. We numb out. We fill the void left by our unfulfilled desires with things, people, and experiences that are poor substitutes for our own soul’s essence. We give over, give away or throw away our power until we no longer have access to it.

    The resulting feelings of powerlessness take us even further away from our wholeness, from the essential wholeness and power of the world.

    And so the cycle is perpetuated. It’s that disconnection from power that gives rise to mechanisms of control, abuse of authority, and social, economic, and religious structures that serve a small minority at the expense of everyone else.

    We experience abuses of power – in our homes and families, classrooms, financial institutions, social and economic systems. We experience the ways in which power is unequally distributed and misused in our workplaces, in our systems of governance and justice.

    We react to this growing body of experience and understanding in a variety of ways. Some of us shrink away from the responsibility of owning and wielding power because we are afraid of the corrupting influence of power. Or we become mired in anger, blame, impotence or beliefs about power and powerlessness that keep us from accessing the depths of our own personal power, and using it in service to wholeness through focused, inspired, collaborative action.

    Eventually, we forget that power is a quality of soul, that it is within us and cannot be taken away from us, no matter what. We identify ourselves and others as victims, we carve up our world into ideological categories – oppressors, victims, oppressed. And we contribute to the distortions that come from conflating the uses and abuses of power with its essence, which is the activity of love.

    Power is Love in action. On a soul level, you have access to all the powers of wholeness — in this world and in the subtle energy worlds. When I say that the powers of the stars and galaxies, of the Earth and sun, are in you, I mean this quite literally. You can access these powers in your own energy body, once you develop the consciousness, skill and capacity to do so.

    Much of the work we do in my 12-week program, Become Your Own Business Adviser, is this work of accessing and developing your power and other soul qualities, embodying and expressing them in your business and in your daily life. As you do this work of inner growth and transformation, everything changes. Your life, your business, unfold with what seems like miraculous ease. And ease is also a soul quality — one of the hallmarks of power.

    Power wielded in service to love, in harmony with wholeness, is among the most creative forces in the universe.

    Power is the first quality to emerge from formlessness into form. It is the quality that gives shape and form to all of life.

    But power is also a function of your incarnation, your personhood. Your personal power derives from everything you are and do. It grows or diminishes, depending on the choices you make, the actions you take, and the rhythms and patterns by which you live your life.

    Your genetic makeup, your physical health and well-being, your emotional resiliency, your mental acuity and your energetic strength and flexibility all contribute to your personal power. So do the health of your relationships with others, with the natural world, with your home, your work, your creativity, your culture and your community.

    You grow your personal power by being true to yourself, by giving yourself what you need, when you need it, by honoring your desires, by nourishing your heart and the heart of the world, by living your deepest values.

    When you do what you say you’re going to do, you enhance your personal power. When you keep your promises to yourself, you gain power. When you align your choices and actions with your soul’s purposes, your true desires and intentions, you develop your personal power.

    You may have lost touch with your personal power. You may have contracted away from it, or ignored it, or bought into a story that you don’t have it. Your capacity to hold and express your power may wax and wane, depending on what’s going on in your life, who you’re with, and what your circumstances are. But power is in you, as a seed or potential, waiting for you to claim it, develop your capacity to express it and use it skillfully to create your heart’s truest desires.

    And, because it is a soul quality, it brings you into harmony and resonance with all beings, both in the incarnate world and in the subtle energy realms. It unites you with the soul of the earth, the Deva of the Cosmos, and the entire, sacred web of creation.

    When you truly understand this, in a practical way, you’ll know that everything you choose to create is really a co-creation. And when you partner with the powers of wholeness – from those closest to you, like the soul or Deva of your business, your family, your home, to those that may seem impossibly far away, like the Devas of galaxies and multidimensional realms far removed from our own – your life and your business unfold in miraculous ways. You and your business become part of the activity of Power, part of the activity of Divine Order. You contribute to the evolution of a world that nourishes all of life.


    Join me and a powerful circle of creative folks for the next session of Become Your Own Business Adviser, which begins March 30th. You can sign up to listen to the recording of a preview teleclass, Sweet Success and the Soul of Your Business, right here. And, if you already know that you’re ready for a journey that will transform your life and open up undreamed-of opportunities in your business, register for this magical 12-week program, here.

    Grow Your Personal Power

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    Your personal power derives from everything you are and do. It grows or diminishes, depending on the choices you make, the actions you take, and the rhythms and patterns by which you live your life.

    Your genetic makeup, your physical health and well-being, your emotional resiliency, your mental acuity and your energetic strength and flexibility all contribute to your personal power. So do the health of your relationships with others, with the natural world, with your home, your work, your creativity, your culture and your community.

    You grow your personal power by being true to yourself, by giving yourself what you need, when you need it, by honoring your desires, by nourishing your heart and the heart of the world, by living your deepest values.

    When you do what you say you’re going to do, you enhance your personal power. When you keep your promises to yourself, you gain power. When you align your choices and actions with your soul’s purposes, and your true desires and intentions, you develop your personal power.

    You may have lost touch with your personal power. You may have contracted away from it, or ignored it, or bought into a story that you don’t have it. Your capacity to hold and express your power may wax and wane, depending on what’s going on in your life, who you’re with, and what your circumstances are.

    But power itself is a quality of your soul. It is in you, as a seed or potential, waiting for you to claim it, develop your capacity to express it and use it skillfully to create your heart’s truest desires.

    And, because power is a spiritual quality, it brings you into harmony and resonance with all beings, both in the incarnate world and in the subtle energy realms. It unites you with the soul of the earth, the Deva of the Cosmos, and the entire, sacred web of creation.

    When you truly understand this, in a practical way, you recognize that everything you choose to create is really a co-creation. You learn to work in partnership with the powers of wholeness – from those that are closest to you, like the soul or Deva of your business, your family, and your home, to those that may seem impossibly far away, like the Devas of galaxies, universes and multidimensional realms far removed from our own.


    • You are a sovereign being,
      a fractal of the Sacred,
      a fractal of Wholeness.
    • The flow of your life.
      The soul of your business.
    • Grow your business.
      Grow yourself.
    • Expand your life. Evolve your business.
    • The art of alignment. The miracle of action.
    • Trust in the power of your perfect unfolding.
    • Permission to grow, to flow, to know.
    • You learn about freedom by experiencing what it feels like to be bound.
    • Beyond your beliefs, beyond your drama — the truth of your life.
    • Success is becoming the person who can ask for hugs and holding when your own strength has deserted you.
    • Embrace the mystery at the heart of creation.
    • Your soul sends out tendrils of light and fragrance into the world.
    • You are the gift — and the giver.
      You are the Love, and the lover.
    • At the heart of all things — even limiting beliefs and painful programming — is wholeness.
    • Surrender is an act of will. It is aligning your will with the will of the Sacred.
    • You learn about sovereignty through the experience of being dethroned.
    • Love transforms.
    • Your soul's purpose is to participate in wholeness, to express wholeness.
    • True Desire is a messenger of your soul.
      It leads directly to your soul’s purposes.
    • Unfold the miracle of your life and business.
    • Business = Love in action.
    • Everything you need is already within you, waiting to unfold and express itself.
    • Your inner world shapes your outer world.
      Success is an inside job.
    • You are the story, and the story-maker.
      Your life is yours to shape.